Back Burner Becomes Front Burner

When the back burner becomes the front burner!  During my childhood we had a wooden stove with several “eyes” that you could open.  With this new generation most people probably don’t know what I’m talking about.  Well let me try to describe.  First of all, the stove had a side door where you put the wood and poured the kerosene to get the fire going, and then you closed the door.  The top of the stove had two or three openings that were cut out in a way that the cut piece was fitted securely when put in place.  These cutouts were called the “eyes”, which is similar to what we call burners today, and were used as a guide for sitting your cooking pots.  Also, you could open the eyes and stoke the fire if it died down.  For some reason the fire always burned hotter near the front, therefore if something was cooking too fast my mom would put it on the back burner to cook a little slower or to stay warm.  I firmly believe that this is where the statement, “on the back burner” originated from.

How many times have you used that statement to describe the action that you are taking because you do not wish to deal with something right now?  Maybe the conversation is not your cup of tea, so you set it aside with hopes of it cooling down or being forgotten all together.  When we want to put things off until tomorrow, we almost intuitively say, “I’ll put that on the back burner.”  Well what happens when the back burner becomes the front burner?  When you have pushed things away so many times that they start to recycle themselves.  What happens then?  You deal with it, because what used to be a low priority has suddenly rose to the top.  I’ve learned that when you have a list of accomplishments to meet, it is better to do the hardest or least exciting thing first, because doing that will create an adrenaline rush to power you for the next task.  It’s like getting it off your chest, or meeting the deadline, or saving the day.  It gives you energy for the journey!

I’d Rather be Having Sex

I’d rather be having sex! Do I have your attention?  Why is the subject of sex so taboo when it comes to having a great conversation?  What is it that makes us cringe when the topic comes up, especially in a mix group with males and females?  I’m not saying that you should give all your personal details about what happens in your bed, but I do think that adults should be able to have an intelligent conversation about sex without being embarrassed.

Recently I wrote my fourth book, Sexy, Celibate, and Sane – Keeping Your Legs Closed in a Sex-Crazed World. For this book I decided to depart from my usual style of writing and delve into a subject that so many avoid, SEX.  I wrote this book for those of us out there who have felt that something is wrong if you are celibate, whether by choice or default.  Society has a tendency to place a lot of emphasis on sex through their commercials, their music, and their advertisements, but few mention the choice of abstinence, except the church.  For those who say that I am being a hypocrite by promoting the book this way, I want you to know that this book is not based on religion.  And trust me, almost everyone you see in church that’s old enough to have sex is doing so, whether they are married or not.

I always like to make my stories light-hearted with a bit of humor whether in print or in person.  I chose this title because it’s catchy, and there are many days and many circumstances where I would rather be having sex.  When I think of all the rainy days we’ve had here in South Carolina, I’d rather be having sex. As I close my eyes at night in my bed alone, I’d rather be having sex.  When I wake up in the morning and the pillow is the only thing next to me.  When my car brakes down, my tooth need pulling, or my eye glasses break, I’d rather be having sex.  If you want some good humor with lust, love or the lack thereof, be sure to click on the “shop” button and grab your copy of, Sexy, Celibate and Sane- Keeping Your Legs Closed in a Sex-Crazed World.