Why is it that the motto for news is, “If it bleeds, then it leads?” Have you ever wondered why there are so many sad stories in the news? Are we conditioned to focus only on what gets the adrenaline flowing? Unfortunately, we all created this desire for drama and now we wish we could turn it off. I’m guilty as well. It seems that a painful story sticks with you longer than a story about what’s good in the world.
As human beings we also tend to remember our own painful stories and we continue to share them every chance we get. I challenge you today, “Don’t park at your place of pain!” Get out of that parking space. Allow someone else to use it. Take the handicap sticker out of your window. Step outside the blue lines! You have to reach for your blessings. Neutral won’t move your car forward. You gotta put your car in drive.
Mind what you think! All of us have probably heard the saying, “A mind is a terrible thing to waste,” and to go even further, we’ve also heard, “As a man thinketh, so is he.” What does those two statements mean to the average person? To some it means absolutely nothing. When you look at the current state of affairs we know that so many minds are wasted. We also know that there are numerous people who never speak life to their situation. Doom and gloom is the word of the day. Their surroundings enforce it. Their home environment confirms it, and their lifestyle adds the icing to the cake. Why do some people hear these statements and grasp them right away, and others turn a blind eye to what’s right in front of them? How is it that two people can be from the same side of the track, yet one make it out and another gets trapped in the madness? Why? I don’t have concrete answers, but I would suffice it to say from my own experience that it’s mind over matter. We have to not only use our minds for good, but we also have to mind what we think. A thought is energy that starts the process of reality. Therefore it is extremely important that we take our own thoughts captive. We often ask God to do that, but it’s also up to us to capture our thoughts as well. Learn how to reign your thoughts in when you feel them taking an avenue that is not becoming to you and your character. Listen to that little voice inside of you that knows right from wrong. No one should have to call you on the carpet for doing something foolish. You already know!
We always feel that we need a reason for everything. We want to set the record straight and explain ourselves away. And since we like to do that we think everyone else should do it as well. When you don’t hear from someone after a certain period of time you wonder what’s wrong. Why haven’t they called or texted? You make a post on social media that you know one of your friends will recognize, and read between the lines and make a comment. But then, NOTHING! It’s not that you were referring to a situation about them, but you did share the situation with them, so they know what you’re talking about. Why didn’t they at least hit “like” or say something to acknowledge that they had seen the post?
And then we have the situations where you bend over backwards to be a good, professional person and something comes along that rubs you the wrong way. After you have made a few attempts at resolving the issue and have decided that it’s not worth the fight, you see something that reminds you of what took place. At that very moment, the silence between you and your situation gets thicker. You assume that that person is thinking about you as well as you are thinking about them. Because we all know that silence is a choice. That’s why sometimes the best answer to silence is silence! And like my nephew told me several years ago, “Everything is not about you. A lot of stuff that goes on in your head is only in your head.” So don’t waste your time trying to figure out how to fill the silent space between you and another. The silence is there for a reason whether you like it or not. Move on!
Stop trying to feed those who only showed up for the “to-go” plate. There are people in our lives who only come around when we have something to give away. They don’t want to stay and be a part of your ongoing life or serve any real purpose when it comes to your well-being. They are not trying to sit down at your table and share in conversation about your vision, goals, dreams or basic ups and downs of life. They pop in when things are going well to grab a bite of your joy and your success. They hang onto your every word as long as it benefits them. You are praised when the going is good, but ignored when things get rocky. You will always see them at the most important meetings of the mind, but never see them when you’re down and out. Do they miss you when you are absent for awhile? Do they call you if there has been no contact in a few weeks or months? Do they ask others about you when they haven’t heard from you? If they don’t, then you need to stop trying to feed those who showed up for a “to-go” plate!
There are so many general statements that we make every day. Think about it. We say, “It is what it is.” We say, “That’s just the way I am.” We also say, “I don’t do this or that, or that’s not me.” You fill in the blank. I have said them all. Let’s focus on ‘It is what it is.’ That statement is something that we subconsciously tell ourselves, and we speak it out loud without thinking. When you say it is what it is, you are telling the universe that you accept the status quo. You are saying that you have no say over what comes into your life. You are agreeing with whatever circumstances you face. But it doesn’t have to be that way. NO, it is not what it is! It is what you say it is. It is what you believe it is. And most of all, it is what you want, prepare for, and expect. So stop saying, “It is what it is!”
Goals, dreams, and visions play a major role in what shows up in your life. If all you want to do is exist, then that’s what you will get. In order to do better you have to see yourself doing better. You cannot get to a place that you have never visualized yourself being. I have seen myself writing and speaking full-time for over thirty years. It has been a long time coming but I was willing to wait. Today I do what I love: write, travel, and speak!