Monthly Archives: May 2015

“Prepare for the Prize”

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We all have things in life that we want to achieve.  I’ve heard that luck is when preparation meets opportunity.  Never believed in luck, so I constantly work on being prepared for whatever life sends my way.  None of us can determine the outcome of all our decisions, but we can strive to stay one step ahead of the game.  I always believed in being in the right place at the right time, especially when it comes to living my dreams.

As far back as I can remember, I loved being on stage.  Maybe it was a play at school, singing in the choir, or a talent show.  There was something about having people sit there and watch what you are doing.  It was not so much about the fame as it was the desire to feel important.  Coming from a dysfunctional family, there was not much at home to inspire me.  My teachers always saw more in me than I saw in myself.  That played a pivotal role in me becoming the inspirational speaker and author that I am today.  As I embark upon a new venture I am thankful that I never gave up on my dream.  It is exciting and scary to finally be putting things in place that I saw myself doing twenty-five years ago.  Do I have all my “Is” dotted and all my “Ts” crossed?  Of course not!  It’s a day by day process of lining up people and ideas to bring the vision into fruition.  What I do know is this; I have enough wisdom, courage, and faith to start the conversation.  We all have dreams, but not all of us are willing to put in the effort and do the waiting.  We live in a microwave society.  If it doesn’t happen right now, we stop believing and working on our dreams. You always have to prepare for the prize!


“You Won’t Sell Nothing Until You Sell Who You Are!”


I have heard that people buy from those they know, trust, and have a relationship with.  Never really gave it much thought until I became an author.  I was always good at selling myself and my story through motivational speaking.  However, once I became an author I had to approach sales much differently.

Recently I mentioned to a new friend that I had an upcoming speaking engagement and would be selling my books as well.  Her reply was, “Wow! You are a writer!  I am an avid reader.  I love this, and I can’t wait to read your books.  This is exciting.”  She also said she has another engagement on that date, but would try to stop by to catch whatever part of my talk that she could, because she wanted to get the books.  We talked a little further about how my speaking and writing is NOT the first topic of conversation when I meet people, because I am not trying to sell them something.  I am simply making friends, and should the conversation lead to my speaking and writing, so be it.

A quick back story:  This young lady is someone I met at a crowded restaurant while waiting to be seated.  When I got my buzzer and walked around the bar area to browse while waiting on my table, she spoke to me and we struck up a conversation about the restaurant.  She had been there before, and it was my first time.  We talked about how crowded it was and how it would be nice if those who have space at their table, would offer to share a meal together rather than keep people waiting so long.  She indicated that she was waiting on another girlfriend, and I told her that I was alone.  We chatted some more, and eventually she asked why don’t we share a table, and said she knows her friend would not have a problem with that either.  Needless to say, dinner went very well, and I now have two new friends because we were willing to eat with strangers.  Networking is so much more than passing out business cards.  You won’t sell nothing until you sell who you are!

“The Teacher is Always Silent During the Test”

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As a person who lives alone it can be quite lonely sometimes having no one to talk to.  However after numerous years you learn to enjoy and appreciate the silence and independence.  Then there are the days when you wish you had someone to share your thoughts and anxieties with.  Although you know that God always listen, you still wonder sometimes where He is.  Especially when your world is falling apart and it takes every ounce of energy that you have to keep smiling.  There is no one outside your doors who will understand, because they don’t know the whole story.  If you had a significant other, or even a roommate, they would have been along for some of the journey, and you wouldn’t have to catch them up on the sequence of events that led to your latest fiasco.

When you look around and wonder where God is, remember the teacher is always quiet during the test.  While you stumble around in the dark trying to find your way, God is silent because He knows that you have the answers in your head.  Your recall ability is at optimum function.  As long as you can silence the noise around you there will be a quickening of the spirit that will snap you back to your senses.  Before you know it you will be back on your feet stronger than ever before.  Think about the times where you had to take a test.  Did it bother you when others in the room were talking?  Did you find it hard to focus?  Did you use the process of elimination for several of the multiple choice questions?  Our tests in life are the same.  The teacher will be quiet.  There will be others around you who want to give the answers, rather than have you find the answers for yourself.  And then there is the process of elimination, where you know that choice number one just doesn’t make sense, and choice number two you have already used before, so naturally choice number three is the only logical answer.  Never give up on yourself, because you are the one who has to live with the decisions that you make.  Whatever you decide, make sure that it’s the best decision for YOUR life at that particular time.  If you fall down get back up and try again.  At least you will have learned a way that won’t work.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  The journey is just as important as the destination.  You can’t get there without it.  So, enjoy the journey!  God’s going to be with you no matter what you do.