“Dreams Have No Color”
“I took part in a women’s seminar on Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Day, where I was the only Black woman in the room. The seminar opened with Dr. Martin Luther King’s full “I Have a Dream” speech, followed by a five minute “Dream – Motivational Video” by Will Smith. I firmly believe that it was no coincidence that a group of white women, including the organizer, would be watching a Dr. King Speech, and a Will Smith video to commemorate the King Holiday.
We talked about how to realize your dreams in spite of the daily distractions of life. Time is something that you never get back, so we have to be mindful of how and who we give our time to. Networking and social media are a major part of today’s business dealings, but we need to make sure that we are sharing ideas and space with like-minded people.
We played musical tables (two people take turns sharing their elevator speech and their dream with each other), then critique each other and write it down. You get to keep your paper throughout the rotation. Although the conversation was mainly about our dreams and goals, we also talked about our personal lives. I was shocked when one lady said she was told that her only career choices were nurse, secretary, or teacher. That’s the same thing I was told. For some reason I always thought it was a black thing. Had no idea that white women were steered down the same career path as black women.
At the end of the seminar, you came with a dream, which you shared with everyone in the room. After positive feedback and critiquing, including how the other person can help you succeed, you left with a plan, which was the intention of the organizer. Never seen anything like it! I have a newfound energy and zest for life and the vision that I have laid out for myself. In addition, I have some new colleagues who are ready and willing to help me succeed on my journey, and I likewise.
It’s been a while since I expressed my thoughts through my blog. I could make excuses, but I won’t. As a writer I never force myself to write, however, on the other hand, as a writer we all know when it’s time to write. There is a stirring of the soul that cannot be ignored. Well today it hit me. Although it’s my birthday and I would like to get started on my planned celebration for the evening, my spirit would not let me skip this opportunity. There were so many things this week that made me want to write, but I could never pin it down to a topic. So I waited! Low and behold, as I watched The Steve Harvey show this evening, I got my topic. “Wait Three Days!”
As Steve Harvey celebrated his birthday today on his show, there were many surprises, including a philanthropist, Alan C. Fox, author of, People Tools for Business: 50 Strategies for Building Success, Creating Wealth, and Finding Happiness. Mr. Fox highlighted three major tools for business, but the one that stuck with me was, “wait three days.” He talked about things that make you mad, angry or upset. It could be an e-mail, a tweet, or a conversation. Whatever it is, you need to wait three days before reacting to it. I have found that to be very true. Most things that we think are detrimental to our well-being are usually of no significance after three days. Sometimes we even forget what it was that had us all riled up. I have had situations where changes were made to my day against my will, but it turned out that I avoided another situation because of the change. God knows what is coming and He will always prepare the way for His children so they will not feel the brunt of the crisis. So now, when things don’t go my way, I wait. It may not always be three days, but I wait. I’m not saying that I avoid all feelings about certain situations, I’m just saying that I try never to respond to things based on my initial feelings. And when I give it some time, the situation usually works out in my favor without me saying a word.