Monthly Archives: September 2014

Unconditional Love

When we think of unconditional love the first thing that comes to mind is the love we have for our children. No matter how wrong they may be, we still love them.  And then there is the love of God, which comes with no conditions attached.  Suppose God loved the way we do?  What if He didn’t provide for our needs unless we served Him?  There are many areas where unconditional love can be expressed.  If you have been married for decades, there has to be some unconditional loving going on.  Most of us think of love as a word that requires intimate feelings.  There are different kinds of love, which can all be unconditional.  There is love for your brothers and sisters.  Love for your friends, and even love for people who continually put you down. Unconditional love is a lot easier than we realize. It is not the hole in us that receives the dirt, but the sun within that never stops shining.  It may feel like you are always being dumped on when you love unconditionally.  However, when you can move beyond the drama and still show up with a smile, that says a lot about you and your character.  It’s normal for the dog to howl at the moon, but when the moon talks back then the dog becomes famous.  You want people to be sharing your name for the right reason; because you are the one who brings the sunshine into the room.  It’s almost like the party couldn’t start until you arrived.  Unconditional love does not mean that you accept everything that is going on around you.  It means that you respect people’s differences although you may step aside when something doesn’t agree with your spirit.  It is easy to go along just to get along, but it takes a lot of courage to keep your mouth shut when all around you are complaining.  When in doubt, say nothing.  Every conversation does not need your input.  Sometimes unconditional love expresses itself through silence!

Is the glass half-empty or half-full?


Have you ever had days when you felt like the world was on everybody’s side except yours? Do you sometimes believe that no matter what you do life will always be a struggle?  Are there times when you just don’t have an ounce of energy for nobody but yourself?  Guess what?  We have all been there.  I have a testimony for each of the above scenarios.  For me the glass was always half-empty, until I learned the secret to turning lemons into lemonade.  No matter how bleak the situation may be, there is always another story going on behind the scene.  The solution depends on how you frame the picture.  As human beings we tend to see things through filtered lens.  We see things based on how it was the last time something similar came our way.  We judge today based on what happened yesterday, and sabotage tomorrow in the process.  As a writer and author, I am blessed to be able to see life through a variety of lens.  Everything in life can be turned into a positive if you choose to see the bigger picture.  In my new book, Reframing Your Picture – True Life Stories of Turning Negatives Into Positives, I share numerous personal stories about things that happened to me and how I found a way to see outside the frame.  You can do the same thing.  Either the glass is half-empty or half-full.  You make the decision!